MyDiscover Model
In all relationships, there first exists attraction. As the relationship proceeds, it proceeds according to its compensatory desire. We all want to feel good, and this is the attraction to the use of alcohol and drugs, and just as any want that is not validated, negotiated, and compromised, in a word, RESPECTED, then the want to feel good transitions into the need to feel good. As the relationship continues, the need to feel good transforms to the need not to feel bad. The cycle is compensatory, in other words, it, the act, serves a purpose. As in all relationships, without validation, negotiation, and compromise, the very first attraction transforms into the conflict that sets the stage for self and other destruction.
