DWI & DRUNK DRIVING: TWO EXTREME MINDSETS

• April 1st, 2013
• Peter Stone

Vows of abstinence, are broken far more readily than the principles of learning that shaped the behavior, drinking and drugging behavior.  Humans are pack animals, we are social interactionists, and through our interactions we define not only our social self, we also shape the influence of our personal self.  For some, it is more important that people like them over and beyond what the involved person thinks of him or herself.  This field dependence, external locus of control influences many irrational acts like people pleasing.  People feel good when other people accept them, associate, joke and kid with.  If, out with others, the principle of reinforcement dictates that people are motivated to fit in, and through that course have a good time.  If that includes drinking alcohol or doing some drug, so be it.

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Tags: addiction specialist, Alcohol, alcohol abuse, bad, co-occurring mood disorder, drinking and drug behavior, drug abuse, drunk, drunk driving, DWI, impaired driver, motivation for drinking, NH LADC

MyDiscover Model

• March 28th, 2013
• Peter Stone

In all relationships, there first exists attraction.  As the relationship proceeds, it proceeds according to its compensatory desire.  We all want to feel good, and this is the attraction to the use of alcohol and drugs, and just as any want that is not validated, negotiated, and compromised, in a word, RESPECTED, then the want to feel good transitions into the need to feel good.  As the relationship continues, the need to feel good transforms to the need not to feel bad.  The cycle is compensatory, in other words, it, the act, serves a purpose.  As in all relationships, without validation, negotiation, and compromise, the very first attraction transforms into the conflict that sets the stage for self and other destruction.

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Tags: abusive power and control, Alcohol, alcohol and drugs, compromise, drug abuse, drugs, frustration, gambling, headline news, health care, human condition, incompetence and dependence, matter of perspective, mindfulness, model of change, motivatonal interviewing, MyDiscover Model, negotiation, NH LADC, power and control, Power of Control, recover, recovery, relief, respect, sex, skills, validation

Relapse Prevention Is A Skill

• March 19th, 2013
• Peter Stone

Lets just say that you find yourself in a situation.  Years past you lost your license for the choice you made to drink and drive intoxicated.  The police introduce you to the court, the DA introduces you to the judicial system, and the judicial system issues an order for you to follow.  You contact, go [...]

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Tags: AA, alternative, desensitization effect, disinhibition effect, drinking or drugging, DWI drink and drive, impaired driver program, intoxicated, judicial system, meetings, NA, principles of social reinforcement

What is a mind-set? It is our primary relationship.

• March 17th, 2013
• Peter Stone

What is a mind-set? To answer this question one needs an appreciation to its relevance and what is commonly referred to as the human condition.  Everything you experience is relational to your mind-set.  It is through your mind-set that you instigate all of your behaviors with the goal of satisfying your human condition.  The human [...]

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Tags: abuse substance, Addiction & LADC, addiction specialist, alcohol abuse, anchored, Anger Management, competence, domestic abuse, drug, drug abuse, entitlement, fear, for substance, government, human condition, immediate gratification, independence, lack substance, mind set, NH LADC, no growth in safety, personal self, primary relationship, self, social self, suffer, survive, war on drugs

Rush to buy military guns!

• December 17th, 2012
• Peter Stone

With the killing of each other, the killing of youthful innocence, some demand a ban on the sale of assault rifles, and yet for perhaps equally as many, gun shops cannot keep them off the shelf.  And if they are banned, and all the guns were bought up, what changes?  This is what I refer [...]

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