When it comes to alcohol and drug abuse, anger-based hostile aggression, and entitlement-based coercive domestic power and control (domestic abuse) there are four dimensions to distressed mental health.
- Biochemical: We are all biochemical beings first and foremost. Anything consumed, and there are three influences to consumption: substances, senses, and thoughts and feelings.
- Psychological: Everything one experiences is a matter of prospect. Our eyes look out as we experience within our mind-set. A mind set implies two, not that we have two minds, rather we have two dimensions to our mind that being perspectives of our personal self and perspectives of our social self. Our personal self is shaped through our values and our social self is shaped by our expectations to how our values are fulfilled.
- Social/Environmental: Behavior does not occur in a vacuum. What we think, feel, and do is influenced by that which exists and occurs outside of us.
- Stress: Stress is a natural occurring phenomenon that motivates behavior. Stress is likened to a perceived threat and as in all threats, the goal is elimination
Taken together, these four dimensions constitute what we do with what we experience. What we do through our actions is to compensate. In this context, substance abuse is compensatory, it serves the purpose of eliminating the perceived threat to ones personal standing. Taken another way, those who lack substance, a flexible foundation of values, abuse substances for substance. Anger based hostility, and domestic abuse are also compensatory. When angered, the experience is to eliminate the threat and reduce the distress. Here, as based on the four factors to mental health, the experience of anger is often expressed as aggression, hostile aggression, passive aggression, and assertiveness. In situations of domestic abuse, the underpinning is entitlement-based coercive power and control. Power and control are the goals of entitlement based perspective. Entitlement is wrapped with the need for deservedness, centrality, and superiority. Relational and indirect aggression mark intimate partner abuse.
The key to change is to acquire the skills necessary to experience mental health. Indeed, mental health is a skill and not a condition to be overcome. To learn the skills necessary to gain lasting behavior change from substance abuse, anger, and domestic abuse, and to learn more about the compensatory nature to behavior, contact Peter Stone, MA, CAS, MLADC, CART at 603-702-0117
It is an irrational world where frustration abounds, to understand addiction ask yourself a simple question: Why would you choose to step on a sharp piece of glass? To understand this mind-set, I challenge you to read my article on What is a mind-set?
I specialize in helping clients address co-occurring mood disorders with alcohol and drug abuse, anger management, and coercive domestic power and control (domestic abuse). I offer evaluations, intervention, counseling, and education. Currently I accept Blue Cross/Blue Shield, Anthem, Harvard Pilgrim, United Behavioral Health, Athena, and others. I also offer a sliding fee for service pay scale.
I serve two areas: North Conway and Hampstead, New Hampshire